Posted by kazoo on October 15, 2003, at 3:50:21
In reply to suicide/memorial dates, posted by cubic_me on October 10, 2003, at 5:29:35
Grief is a very personal expression that one never shares with others unless, of course, this is what you want. I am not of the persuasion where one must re-inact the inner pain in losing someone time and time again. Is spilling one's guts out really a catharsis? Does it really help? I've been through this trip too many times to know that it doesn't. Share those memories of good times you had with the individual and don't dwell on the finality of it all. Life does go on.
O.T.
Things heard at a typical wake or funeral which I despise:
"Oh, didn't they look good?"
"They" ... (meaning the mortician) ..."did such a good job."
"They're in a better place."
"They're happier now."
"Their pain is over and now they're in a better place."I've never said any of these things, and I don't want to hear them.
kazoo
> Tomorrow is a year since my friend killed herself. I dont know what to do with myself. I thought I'd managed to deal with the guilt but its all come back. I cant stop thinking how bad she must have been feeling a year ago today, what she was thinking, why didnt she call?
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> No-one here at uni knows what tomorrow is for me and I dont want to tell them cos I've been doing so well putting on the happy face this term.
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> This thing is tearing me up and I''ve got to work, theres so much to do and my concentration is nil.
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> _me
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