Posted by Dinah on September 23, 2008, at 13:38:02
In reply to God help me with my attitude, posted by Bird Watcher on September 23, 2008, at 12:47:36
Unfortunately, anywhere people gather there will be the same problems you have whenever people gather.
It's been my experience that people who believe in God try to be welcoming, and are kind in their own ways. But they, like all, have their own limitations. When I was rejected at church for my beliefs, it wasn't because my churchmates didn't care about me or for me. But to them caring meant worrying about my immortal soul. And I scared them. My views were heretical to them. They were being loving in their own way.
Gossip and politics are rife in churches. Again, they're just people. My favorite pastor peppered his sermons with really funny stories on the topic, though hopefully about anonymous churchmembers from unknown previous assigments. We are all working toward perfect love, but we're not quite there yet, I think.
Church does has one advantage over real life. A passing mention of something in the scriptures on the topic generally is a gentle reminder for people to get back on track.
In the end, it was my mother's church that embraced her and has kept her from her loneliness. I don't know that they are filled with genuine godly love for her. More likely they see her as a test sent by God to try their good intentions. Church can be the most logical step for the lonely.
But you're right. Churches vary a lot in that regard. What is acceptable at churches varies a lot, and finding a good one is key.
Both the churches I attended lately were very loving. But the Sunday School class I've found at this church is just more accepting of differences.
There are good communities out there. It sounds as if you might have found one.
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