Posted by beardedlady on May 31, 2002, at 15:39:07
In reply to Re: Mental Illnesses and Faith Communities » SuzyQ, posted by 2sense on May 31, 2002, at 15:16:59
> My husband is both verbally and emotionally abusive ... Talking to him just causes more arguments and heart ache ... I pray and pray and read and read ... and feel very forgotten and forsaken. ... There is not physical abuse, though he will destroy things -- but he says he is provked ... No one knows what to do and I am just weary and was in a very physically abusive marriage for 10 years before I left...
I am so sorry you are in this relationship--and have been in a similar one prior to this.
>Does anyone have anything to say other than the platitudes
The platitutdes? As in the one I expressed above? Sure. I would say to find any way you possibly can--through friends, social workers, family members--to get out. It's not too late for your children to learn that life isn't about abuse. Yes, it's way easier said than done. But it's more important that it be done, rather than said.
>I am a true Christian, I know God is in control
Could you explain what this means? I am taking your meaning to be that you will just trust that God knows what's best. Even if God is in control, it doesn't mean you should accept what has happened to you and just live with it. At some point, you have to take the wheel (which you know, because you've done it before), rather than be a passenger. I remember this bumper sticker from when I was a kid: God helps those who help themselves. Maybe that's relevant? Anyhow, it works better than the other bumper sticker: Let Go, Let God.
Please don't think I'm lecturing or preaching or speaking down to you in any way. But I feel your frustration and sadness, and I'm really only trying to encourage you to change your situation--if not for your own sake, then for your kids. They have few choices.
If you live near me, I will gladly help you in any way I can. We have a terrific Catholic community (I am not Catholic, however) in my neighborhood, and folks are very loving and helpful here. (I'm in Maryland.)
Take care.
Beardy
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