Posted by Racer on August 17, 2007, at 23:00:02
In reply to Re: Someone pretending to have an ED..., posted by Cecilia on August 17, 2007, at 21:25:29
I'm sorry if I wasn't more clear in my post. I was very upset about what happened, and probably didn't express myself well.
In this case, what she was claiming was being unable to eat at all, losing so much weight that everyone around her was worried, and being so frail as a result that she'd have to be hospitalized within days, or risk death. (She moved a few months ago, and now lives half a state away.) She's done this before, with other people, only to send pictures later from the period when she was "dangerously thin," which showed her to be looking just fine. (She tells different stories to different people, and I think she forgets what she's said.)
I do realize that her history of weight issues is an eating disorder. (The rest of her family is on the small side, and she's always had trouble with binging.) My reaction to this is based on -- well, it's mostly based on having known her for the 20 years her mother and I were close friends, but also on the fact that she knows full well that I'm not OK myself. I have told her in the past that I'm not the one to discuss her weight issues with, largely because I have so much trouble dealing with my own weight gain. I feel so enormous, and yet I know my doctor would act pretty rapidly if I lost weight. It's a hell of a place to be, and I'm not interested in being an audience for someone else's melodrama when it hits so close to home.
Whoops! I guess I'm getting riled up again. I'm sorry about that.
Let's leave it at this: I was upset in part because my stated disinclination to discuss weight related issues with this woman was completely ignored. This is not the first time she's ignored my stated unwillingness to discuss certain issues with her. She has legitimate problems, and I'm more than willing to offer advice on how she can get help for them. Hell, before she moved, I spent two and a half days on the telephone for her, getting her a list of pdocs and Ts who'd see her for a reduced rate, who had openings at that time, etc. I'm not unsympathetic -- but I am still sensitive on some points, and one of them is having my stated boundaries totally ignored.
By the way, when I found those options for her, she never bothered to follow up. She didn't need treatment, after all, I guess...
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