Posted by AnneL on April 7, 2001, at 21:21:41
In reply to Re: Panic Disorder/OCD/Suicidal Ideation HELP! » AnneL, posted by Sulpicia on April 4, 2001, at 22:57:36
> > >Hi Liz.
Just wanted to update you on my daughter's progress and get some things off my chest. Actually hospitalization has been the best thing to help get rid of what I call the "logjam" for my daughter. Besides starting on Effexor XR (I also take it with very good results and her pdoc thought we might as well give it a try), the parent group and family group meetings have been very, very helpful in getting our daughter to express herself. Although I intellectually realize that my daughter was genetically programed from the start for a mental illness (depression and OCD along with panic disorder does run in both sides of the family), I am experiencing the usual mom-guilt of wishing I had done this or that differently. I'am working out this stuff as best I can. I came to the realization yesterday that my daughter's conflict of where she lives and reluctance to come home not only stems from her dislike of her step-dad and some disappointments in me, but probably more importantly she has reached that developmental age where she really needs her father. Discharge is around the corner and her Dad and I decided that we will give her a "trial" 90 day time in which to connect and get some daddy-love in Tucson. We have stressed to her that this is open-ended, in other words, my front door is always open should she choose to come back to live with me. This is the short version and you might imagine how difficult it is to do the "right" thing even when it means letting go. . . the grief process is horrible, but necessary and I realize that it is very difficult for my daughter as well. She can't live with me at this point in her life and she can't live without me. Her Dad and I will be putting together a "contract" so that contact between her and I will be expected so that we can both go through the process of healing our relationship in time and when the universe sees fit (and her meds kick in!) Thank you for listening. I really needed to "tell" you this. Thanks, Laurie
(as in Laurie Anne)
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