Posted by Lou Pilder on November 17, 2014, at 17:59:21
In reply to Posing questions. » Lou Pilder, posted by SLS on November 17, 2014, at 12:32:44
> > > I, for one, appreciate your concerns about the negative effect these posts might be having on newcomers. A number of us have expressed this concern for several years now, but have eventually accepted, however reluctantly, that this does not appear to be a concern shared with Bob.
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> > > While the medication board has continued to be a great source of informstion for new treatments, it does seem that the sense of warmth and community which once characterized Babble has largely disappeared. The number of active posters appears to be decreasing. I don't really understand the reasons for this, although I do feel it would have been helpful to both Lou and the community to impose moderate checks on some of his more frightening statements. I don't read them, but I can see that they could be quite alarming to new posters who are just trying to find out if this site is helpful for them. We will never know how many potential posters have decided to reject this site because of this. It is very sad to see how lifeless Babble is now, compared to how it once was.
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> > T_l,
> > You wrote,[...the negative effect...the sense of warmth..has largly disappeared..active posters..decreasing...both Lou and the community to impose moderate checks on some of his more frightening statements. I don't read them, but I can see that they could be quite alarming to new posters...We will never know how many potential posters have decided to reject this site because of this. It is very sad to see how lifeless Babble is now...].
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> > I am asking for you to post here:
> > A. What kind of statement has a negative effect?
> > B. Why could that type of statement not be positive?
> > C. What would be a moderate check consist of?
> > D. What constitutes a frightening statement?
> > E. What could you do here to bring back to life this forum as you say it is lifeless
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> > Lou
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> Mr. Pilder,
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> That you even have to ask these questions could lead a subset of people to conclude that you should be able to answer the questions for yourself before continuing to post on a mental health website. I have found that interpersonal therapy is helpful for being able to develop one's ability to understand others through the construction of "theory of mind".
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> - Scott
> S,
You wrote,[...you (Lou) be able to answer these questions yourself...].
I have asked the poster those questions because I do not know the answers from the poster as to what the poster wants people to think so that I can continue dialog with that poster. If I was to know what the poster wanted readers to think, then I could have a better idea of what the intent of the poster here is and respond accordingly.
In my want for information, if I was to know what the poster meant by a "negative effect" as to what constitutes such, then I could have a better understanding of the mind-set of that poster. And if I was to know what was in the mind of the poster by the poster answering my questions, then I could have a better way to understand the poster and have interpersonal dialog with the poster and be better able to develop my ability to know what motivates the poster to write what the poster has about me as a subject person.
As a subject person, I do not want to jump to a conclusion about the intent of the poster which I, and readers, could avoid if I was to know the answers to my questions from that poster. If I was to know the answers from that poster, which I am offereing the opportunity to reply to them, then I could possibly rule out what is written about my character here that IMHO a subset of readers could think could decrease the respect regard and confidence in which I am held and rule out what the poster wrote about me as the possibility to cause hostile and disagreeable feelings and opinions about me. If the poster rejects the opportunity to answer the questions, that , in and of itself, could allow readers to think about me in the terms that I do not want for people to think about me here. And as long as that opportunity exists for readers to think of me in the terms that I do not want to jump to a conclusion about, then there could be a false conclusion about my character made in the minds of a subset of readers which I am giving the poster an opportunity to rule out.
Without the poster accepting the opportunity to answer my questions, IMHHHO, I could be portrayed here in a {false light} and suffer the effects of readers seeing those statements that could be about me as supportive here and will be good for this community as a whole in Mr. Hsiungs thinking.
Lou
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