Posted by Willful on May 18, 2013, at 13:04:42
In reply to Re: druggin' my kid » 10derheart, posted by Dinah on May 17, 2013, at 2:28:04
I'm not taking up for fear-mongering in any form or by anyone-- but I do wonder if we've understood how fears and hopes work here.
Maybe if we remembered our own choice to post here-- and the reasons why we did become long-term posters-- we can better understand what Lou's impact-- or our own-- is. Perhaps that would give us a different insight into our own process-- rather than if we imagine what new posters might feel-- from our present points of view.~~~
I remember coming here before I posted-- years and years ago-- and being frightened by, for example, individuals' expressions of fear-- to which I resonated-- Yet none of us would consider anything these individuals have written to be uncivil. They were expressing their own anxieties-- quite rightfully-- and asking for help in coping with them. No one would ever want to deny them that right of expression and seeking for help--There are stories by many here of fears, or bad reactions to drugs, or weight gain-- failure of repeated trials of ADs to work--nightmarish interactions with insensitive pdocs, etc--that might actually be more frightening to new posters than all the extreme rhetoric in the world-- especially when it's pointed out by other posters.
And I think each new poster comes here with a history of fears and hopes, looking for confirmation-- or disproofs-- -- in the absence of any guarantees. For each of us, starting a new drug is an difficult venture, spurred by bad experiences of some sort-- and right now, given the state of medical science-- it's going to be a rather uncertain one. I think at best we can offer hope, and support through the uncertainty, try to be there when the person experiences whatever effects come-- and try to slightly make it easier to come to a good (for that person) process.
My bet is that most new posters have read many posts here before they actually post. And from what I've seen, it's possible that many come here not with the intention of becoming permanent posters-- but for limited information or the answers to certain questions.
If so-- why? how does the site as a whole feel as they read it over and make a preliminary connection to how they might want to interact here?I wish we knew more-- but really we're groping in the dark a bit to come to a better place as a community. But we should look more closely before we blame Lou for driving people away-- despite our own immediate, reflexive belief that he might-- because we may be ignoring and somewhat singling him out-- for a process in which he is certainly an important actor-- but which is not really controlled by him.
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