Re: If you Can't Say Anything Nice Talk To Me » zazenducke

Posted by Dinah on July 13, 2012, at 19:40:40 [reposted on July 14, 2012, at 19:26:19 | original URL]

In reply to Re: If you Can't Say Anything Nice Talk To Me » Dinah, posted by zazenducke on July 13, 2012, at 19:08:01

I think that, as with so many things in life, people see the facts and infer the "truth". You and I both saw the results, and we differ as to the truth of my motivations. As much as I dislike Dr. Bob's using actions rather than motivations as the criteria for his judgments, I do see there are some ways in which that *is* fair.
I try to remain open to the idea that my view of the motivations of others could be completely mistaken. I think of you as someone who attempts to do good as much as I did as deputy. I see you trying to protect those who you feel need protection, or those you see as worthy of protection, against those you see as those who are harming them. Yet sometimes, I don't agree with you as to who needs protection and, far more importantly, who deserves whatever you say.
I've cried countless hours over what you've said to me over the years, and I am not alone in this.
I am aware of one time when I misunderstood what was going on with you, and acted on that misunderstanding. I tried later to fix it, but by then Dr. Bob was involved, and it was no longer up to me. I regretted that then, and I still regret it. Every time you say something that hurts me, I remember that moment, and realize that I do deserve for you to dislike me. When I say to people that I've been disliked by people who really can hurt me, your name is one of the top in my mind.
But even given that, I think you misjudge my motivations and my thoughts. And I ask that you not accuse me based on your inferences. I ask that you consider that if you think it's wrong for deputies to judge who is the victim and who is worthy of blocking, that you also consider whether it's right for individuals to decide who is and isn't worthy of kindness.

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