Posted by Toph on November 5, 2010, at 9:41:41
In reply to Re: Under Bobs thumb » Toph, posted by Dinah on November 4, 2010, at 10:02:38
> > I have no less interest and genuine concern for the issues of my family because I am not as involved with them on a daily basis now than I did when I was young and more interacting.
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> Do you interact with them now primarily to criticize how things are done in your family? If, say, one sibling is taking on the burden of caring for your parents, does your concern take the form of complaining about their actions or about your parents?I don't have time to respond to all of your responses or questions, but this one sort of struck a nerve. I work in adult protective services. Sibling caregivers frequently do not have their parents' best interests in mind. Thankfully, out of town, more caring siblings often rescue their parents from their "more involved" siblings who are abusing, neglecting or stealing from their parents.
This is also true here where I have found some less involved participants to be more concerned for the welfare of other participants than more active or less critical participants.
It annoys me that you seem to characterize posters who complain about practices they find unfair to others and themselves as people less interested in the welfare of this community. It may be true in many cases, but I find it insulting to me.
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