Posted by Willful on July 8, 2010, at 17:25:56
In reply to Re: when a person is hurt, posted by Dr. Bob on July 8, 2010, at 4:31:50
Using violette;s reasoning, the most easily hurt person is the standard for civility--- and easily hurt people are somehow more capable of discerning "covert" -- ie not obvious-- abuse or incivility in other people.
I don't see why this would be so. They might just as likely see hurtfulness where it isn't-- because they have a tendency to feel hurt. In most cases, there's some standard of reasonableness, not hyper-sensitivity, when you're trying to analyze a transaction. That seems more reliable and flexible for us too.
Bob doesn't have any special reasonableness maybe-- but it seems like a better thing to aim for in defining civility.
Willful
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