Posted by Dr. Bob on April 28, 2010, at 23:39:21
In reply to why?, posted by obsidian on April 25, 2010, at 21:06:31
> What I am wondering is if you block someone for saying that they think you have a personality disorder (which according to you) is considered to be a put down, than isn't it also saying something about how YOU perceive people who do have personality disorders- as being a negative thing to have?
No, it's just saying that I think a lot of people would be likely to feel accused or put down if someone told them, without being asked, that they thought they had a personality disorder.
> Anyone have ideas that maybe could help Dr. BOb not feel put down when someone jokes with him, that would lead him not to block people? I feel he could have a chance to grow and learn. This site is about education, and everyone has the ability to learn and grow.
The idea here isn't for readers to learn not to feel hurt by incivility. The idea here is for posters to learn to be civil.
> my T did email me today (who looked over this entire thread and others) and said that I may be frustrated by Dr. Bob actions because they echo those of my mom A LOT.
Looking back at your last block, I noticed:
> > I remember that as an abused child, I wanted my mom to change, and I kept thinking she would see the light and do that. But I left home and will never come back because I have my own home now ... you can't change [Dr. Bob]. I couldn't change my mom.
> Dr. BOB's perceptions are always right, and posters are wrong when it comes to discrepancies of what is considered "incivility".
> That sure is a lot of control especially over people
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> BabyToesI don't mean to imply that I have any special gift for discerning the "true" degree of civility of anyone's posts. But I'm the umpire here.
Still, I only control whether you're able to post, you control what you post.
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> it may be that the civility guidelines towards the administrator has actually evolved over time, which seems to have happened here. I seem to recall many vitriolic words directed towards you in the past that never resulted in blocks
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> If this is the case, then it would be problematic for a poster who frequents the boards only now and then and is unaware of these changes in policy.
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> PartlyCloudyThe guideline has always been to be civil, but I did give posters more leeway when it came to me before. I decided vitriolic words could make it feel less safe here.
One way a poster can help other posters avoid blocks is by letting them know when there's less leeway.
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> I do wonder if other people are more upset about zazenducke being blocked than he/she is
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> why?
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> obsidianI can suggest two hypotheses:
1. Maybe it's more important to other posters than the blocked poster.
2. Maybe the blocked poster accepts being blocked, but other posters worry that they'll be blocked next, and no one will help them avoid it.
Anybody else?
Bob
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