Posted by okydoky on December 13, 2009, at 5:07:04 [reposted on December 15, 2009, at 2:18:31 | original URL]
In reply to Re: Options » RocketMan, posted by Phillipa on December 12, 2009, at 20:20:51
Phillipa, what are you protecting yourself against or why do you feel the need to protect yourself? That kind of informs me something is not quite right? I keep Babble mails and emails and actually like having the archives because my memory is so bad but I cannot think of why I would need to keep a babble to "protect" myself.
After reading this I wonder what Phillipa actually saw when she posted she saw my real name on Facebook? Was it because she already new my real name? That would have been a simple explanation and not caused me to get all riled up which is not hard to do lately.
But what I was wanting to post here was another question altogether.
I guess I see this site and what it "needs" to do different than a lot of people.
Perhaps I am wrong. well there is no wrong and right, I don't think, just an opinion of what this site should be responsible for.It is why I see this so much as a "real world" mental health community setting.
In my opinion or experience while one might feel more protected as far as building self esteem and self reliance, self worth .... being able to stand up for oneself and perhaps have a thicker skin when relying on others to defend us, do we need "deputies" or "administrators" to stand up for us?
By posting yourself your contempt about what you believe Phillipa did are you sticking up for yourself. By doing so are you allowing others to make more informed decisions as to their interactions with her or anyone( I don't want to pick on one person here). Are we not able to "police" this site ourselves if only by not addressing posts by those that have proven to us they are not trustworthy or other reasons we might have? I just truly believe that there is much more to be gained by dealing with these issues ourselves, and I mean as a community of equals, than by entrusting what is "good" and/or "right" (I am not good with words sorry) to some "administrator" and/or his "deputies". I think this is a chance to try out our self reliance without the possible repercussions that could come in the "real world".
I understand this is just my opinion and perhaps because of my own life's experiences I harsh one at that.
I am not advocating that I am "right". It is just an opinion. Probably not a good one for me as I get so easily hurt:)
But I am interested in knowing how others think about what the purposes of this site should be and how they should be implemented?
I do think if one does not want to receive Babble form a particular person I should be able to exclude them.
It would all be akin to the "real world". If someone acts in a manner that irritates others they suffer consequences. For example they loose friends. Why not be able to do that on this site? I think it would be another valuable way for this site to be helpful to us and my pet peeve not helpful to those that have "control or power issues.Please do not take this as insulting or anything negative. I just have certain opinions based on some pretty terrible life experience but that does not make them the end all be all correct opinions. That is the whole reason I am putting it out there for discussion or response.
I wish you only well wishes. I don;t know you but we are on this site looking for help. I hope you get what you are looking for on this site or anywhere else. Honestly I would not want anyone, even my enemies to have to survive life the way I find myself doing.Thanks,
oky
ps okay so I need to write a journal and stop bothering people around me with all my problems. Feel free to say so perhaps you have some good ideas to motivate me to change my behavior or motivate others to change their behaviors.
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