Posted by Dr. Bob on July 7, 2009, at 3:59:42
In reply to Re: the length » fayeroe, posted by fayeroe on July 6, 2009, at 23:35:26
> I am sincerely puzzled about how we could have helped him avoid a block?
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> Also, does his 52 week block start from 6/16 or 7/6?
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> Ava> I did try helping Verne avoid a block.
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> Doesn't that count?
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> Deneb> I find it difficult to intervene and "help" people who do not treat others civilly, which of course would be a subjective judgment on my part to even contemplate doing such a thing. I find it very difficult to negotiate this "helping" thing without being accused of making accusations.
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> - Scott> I'm not sure what we could have done?
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> KathDeneb, you certainly did try, and that certainly counts. More people trying may or may not have made a difference.
He had been helped to avoid a block before, so that approach might have worked this time, too. Or, I'm sure you all could do better, but just as an example, what about something like:
> > Verne, I'm worried that Dr. Bob isn't going to like what you just posted. I care about you, and you're important to this community. Maybe being blocked doesn't bother you, but would you consider apologizing for my sake? I feel sad and traumatized every time he blocks one of us.
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> I would have acted immediately, not a month later. I would have given him one month off. And during that month I would have asked the admins (and volunteers?) to keep in touch with him, offering him support and encouragement to stop doing those things which caused the infraction.
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> bayDid anyone here offer him encouragement to stop doing what had led to his PBC 12 days earlier?
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> I'm sad Psychobabble is such a punitive site. It could be so much more, but Bob chooses to do things his way in spite of saying people who post have the power; that is simply just not so.
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> ZebaI agree, it could be much more if posters didn't choose to use their power to post in uncivil ways.
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> Verne was trying to get blocked because he felt it unhealthy of him to be here----at least that's my take.
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> henI don't mean to imply that those who thought it was healthier for him to be blocked should've tried to stop him.
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> it bothers me very much for Bob to say that the community didn't keep Verne from being blocked.
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> there are lots of things that are none of our business. i don't think you will ever understand how boundaries and filters work here. we work to have them and you work to shame us.
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> fayeroeIt's none of your business if other posters are blocked?
Bob
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