Posted by Dr. Bob on June 23, 2009, at 20:06:39
In reply to Re: Case closed? » Dr. Bob, posted by twinleaf on June 6, 2009, at 9:33:19
> I will withdraw the word " vindicative"
Thanks.
> Where in any of this is a hint of an intent on my part to hurt anyone? ... Once again, there was simply no wish to hurt anyone ... Even though neither instance involved a wish to hurt anyone, they were instantaneously considered to be exactly that, The blocks, too, were instantaneous, without any chance for clarification. Not that it would have mattered. it would have been impossible for me to apologize for something I didn't do.
We didn't mean to imply that you intended to hurt anyone. I'm sorry you felt accused of that. But a post could be uncivil even if not intended to be. And could still be apologized for.
> There is another part of this. I felt publicly shamed and extremely embarrassed by what had happened to me here. I had been making a lot of progress in my therapy, and my depression and anxiety had almost disappeared. However, following this incident, both flared up again, severely, for a number of weeks. It was serious enough to require adding an additional therapy session each week. My analyst, who had been very interested in the possibilities this site offered to people isolated by emotional problems, was stunned and appalled by the harm which he saw occurring to me.
I realize that an administrative action can trigger a poster's battle with depression and anxiety. I'm sorry that happens. That's not our intent, but like your posts, ours can also have unintended consequences.
I trust your analyst was also appalled by the circumstances that led to your earlier experiences with depression and anxiety. He sounds very supportive. This site offers a lot of supportive posters. The role of the administrators, however, isn't to be supportive, at least not directly.
Bob
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