Posted by Dinah on June 23, 2009, at 17:05:42
In reply to Re: Rules - Recommended Changes » Dinah, posted by Nadezda on June 23, 2009, at 11:06:04
> PS I do wonder, though, if people don't sometimes feel that the deputies are immune from PBCs and blocks-- and if this doesn't, whether true or not, also cause some tension.
I hope I never test Dr. Bob's policies on that matter. I try very hard to be civil. Perhaps moreso because I'm a deputy and know that Dr. Bob relies on me to act as I ought. But perhaps I would anyway. I always am very careful to follow rules and laws. And of course I have the great example of people like Muffled, who has inspired me to aim far beyond merely following the rules into cultivating generosity of spirit. Is it so hard to believe that deputies want to be civil, and even more than civil?
I would not be surprised if other deputies feel the same pressure to be more civil than is strictly required.
And of course, we know the rules...
That isn't a skill limited to deputies, though.
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> And it may be harder for deputies to know how it feels on the "outside" and I think it's up to posters like me to try to communicate what some of our anxieties and limitations of insight are.Perhaps. I think there was one fill in deputy before me, and as I recall I gave him a very hard time, because Dr. Bob hadn't announced his role, and I was rather suspicious that since he hadn't announced it, it couldn't be true. But of course it was true. Sorry, Mark.
But all current deputies other than me have certainly been nondeputy posters. And I had plenty of experience (and continue to have plenty of experience) being a poster with Dr. Bob as administrator.
> PPS I really will stop soon with all this posting--But that last thing I want to do is to hurt your feelings or in any way be taken to suggest that you or the other deputies have anything other than my respect and thanks for how caringly and responsibly you do your job.
Nadezda, I hope you realize that the last thing I'd like you to do is stop posting. I'm always teasing you to return!
It is true that my feelings are hurt in some of these discussions. Sometimes I wonder if I've been a total fool to invest rather a lot of time and energy into Babble as both a deputy and more importantly a poster over all these many years, if I am perceived as being the problem at Babble rather than someone who supports not only the structure of Babble as a whole, but individual posters.
But I wasn't overly hurt by what you said, because I trust our relationship. If anything, I was emboldened to speak more freely than I usually do because I felt secure in your friendship.
Dinah
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