Posted by alexandra_k on June 4, 2009, at 17:06:57
In reply to Re: I love this place despite the rules, posted by Sigismund on June 4, 2009, at 16:44:05
> Alex spoke passionately in a way that would have kinda hurt me if I'd been on the receiving end of it but which *was* directed elsewhere
Did she? Am I missing something here? Is there a post that has my name on it that only shows up for others or something?
What I see is an initial post where the poster is saying that posters here seem to be sincere and kind and that the rules don't really affect them.
I then see a post I wrote basically saying that it would be wonderful if the rules didn't really affect one. I then listed certain experiences that I've had here. I'm not sure how the initial poster would feel if they had seen either themself or their friends here blocked for such things. Would they feel the same way or wouldn't they? Maybe they would still feel the rules don't really affect them or maybe they wouldn't. I don't understand why someone would feel hurt in response to my raising this (unless someone judged my post to be insincere, sarcastic or whatever - and I clarified that that was not my intention).
But perhaps people know me better than I know myself. It wasn't a 'report' of various things that have happened here it was 'impassioned'. It wasn't responding to the initial post the way other people do it is 'directed' in a way that is considered unacceptable. There is a name for that: Crazy-making. And as always what will happen depends on what Bob wants to happen. Sometimes he accepts apologies, sometimes he doesn't. Sometimes he accepts rephrases, sometimes he doesn't. Sometimes people get blocked for jumping to conclusions about the intentions of others, sometimes people get blocked for having what has been determined to be ill intent. Sometimes people agree with his decision (in which case they feel safe) and othertimes they don't (in which case they don't feel safe).
I... Can't be bothered anymore. And there it is.
poster:alexandra_k
thread:895265
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20090529/msgs/899419.html