Posted by 64Bowtie on December 15, 2008, at 0:33:29 [reposted on December 15, 2008, at 11:07:44 | original URL]
In reply to I don't think that's quite accurate, posted by Racer on December 14, 2008, at 14:04:13
>>> What matters is expressing oneself in a way which is respectful to others.
<<< Dictionary.com =~> Honor shown as our sense of worth (who they are) or excellence (what they did) of a person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a manifestation of a personal quality or ability: (e.g.) "I respect your judgment"...
<<< Unfortunately toooo much respectfulness is left to the eye of the beholder, leading to chaos and confusion; "Don't be dis'n me!" Yet worth and excellence are standards that are deserved and earned...
<<< Fortunately we have another shared standard which are "Keepers of the word", dictionaries, of which Dictionary.com is a stirling example... Left to the the arbitrary and capricious nature of the lowest common denominator street corner lingo, clarity and good sense begin to suffer, and "Don't be dis'n me", a veiled threat, replaces complimentary honor of the value of the person heard in, "I respect your judgment"...
<<< What's important to me in all this is communication as a vehicle for improving relationships... The shortest distance between two points in a relationship is via clear communication; it even feels better... Yet the adherents to that "street corner sage" lowest common denominator lingo are adamant that feeling part of the crowd is about "feeling better"...
<<< How did we get to the point that "veiled threats" and other coercions offer us better feelings??? There's that notion again, "It's all in the eye of the beholder"... No matter how clearly I see, I'm having trouble finding clarity in so much twisted bramble...
Rod
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