Posted by Geegee on October 12, 2008, at 21:54:37
In reply to Re: The PBS has nothing to do with the topic » Geegee, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on October 12, 2008, at 20:31:40
As if often the case with PBC's and PBS's, it's the way something's said that can be contra to the civility guidelines, not necessarily the message itself. In many cases, there are ways to express the message that fit in with the civility guidelines. This is where a civility "buddy" can be of help.
>No sense bothering with it..nobody gives a f*ck..
For example, one might infer that the I-statement message underlying what you posted above could be something like, I give up. I feel all alone in my concern. True, its a different spin on the message. It keeps you as the subject and not others, and that may not have been your intent or preference. But saying it that way is not likely to be deemed uncivil or insensitive.>How nice people talk about how they saved .50 cents on a bottle of cheese whiz, but we don't want to talk about the millions who, every night, don't have a bed to sleep in because of this government.
Similarly, one could say something like, Hey, its great that you saved money on your groceries. Every penny counts, right? But what about those who dont have a bed to sleep in tonight because of the economy. What can we do to help them? Can we talk about that, too? If you wanted to keep in the idea of because of this government, I think youd have to say it something like, I fault the governments actions (or inactions or whatever) for this. Again, that keeps it within your own feelings and point of view while allowing that others might feel differently.
Im certain its not the topic itself, though I acknowledge you disagree.
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