Posted by Dinah on August 1, 2008, at 23:08:06
In reply to Answering questions with questions, posted by Dinah on August 1, 2008, at 22:45:51
It has come to my attention that Dr. Bob's answer really was cryptic. And perhaps my post was too.
I hadn't really realized that.
I guess I do have an odd thought pattern. Or maybe just a Bobly one.
It was a very clear answer that he wasn't there. When we were speculating over whether he was there and experimenting, he was not there. If he'd have come out and said "I wasn't there. I wasn't experimenting." I might not have believed him. If he'd have laughed at the idea of experimentation, or just said he wasn't there, I might have felt embarrassed or angry/abandoned.
But by leading me to the truth by asking me the question, he was acknowledging that it could be scary to think he wasn't around. By acknowledging that it could be comforting to think he was an all powerful being who was toying with us, but was at least all powerful, he was saying that he was neither all powerful nor experimenting with us.
My subsequent experiences with him validated his statement to me. And it was a statement, even if formed as a question.
I hesitate to say this, for what may be the same reasons he formulated it as a question. To realize for oneself can be sad. To be told can hurt.
I don't wish to hurt.
To me, Dr. Bob's way of telling was preferable. I received a truth through that question that was far more valuable than the information it also gave. I wanted to share that with anyone who wanted to receive it.
But to those of you who do not prefer this method, I do not wish you to feel that I'm toying with you.
I don't toy.
poster:Dinah
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