Posted by Happyflower on March 30, 2008, at 21:40:06
When you have one chat room (room 1) where not everyone is welcomed (like blocked posters), it has the potential to make others feel excluded, hurt and putdown. Even blocked posters have feelings too.
Having the power of choice can be taken against others too of excluding them on purpose.I was told chat room one is the main chat room, is that true? As far as I can remember we always started chat in room 2 so everyone can chat even blocked babblers.
There are private chat room that can easily be set up for those who are discussing such private things that don't want others to see.There are not enough chatters to even fill both rooms, so some will always be excluded from chat. Maybe it would be better to just exclude blocked posters totally, then to have a situation where they are hurt over and over again by being excluded from a select group every night.
There is a ignore feature that one can use to not have to read what a certain person says and still have everyone welcomed in the same room.
Some might not even know so...
I just want to say if Babblers want to include everyone, please use room 2 so everyone can join in. Even if chat is already started in room 1, maybe suggest to other chatters that you would feel better about not excluding others from chat and to use room 2.I am having a really rough time ( the bottom) and it would have been nice to talk to others when I needed support, but instead I was forbidden the chance to get that support from fellow chatters because they were in room one and either didn't know I as in room 2 by myself. Yes I was blocked, but should I be shunned too? Sometimes I was lucky and some were in room 2 when I need support.
It hurt me to feel excluded and to feel punished. Some might think I am projecting, but doesn't it hurt anyone to be excluded from any group that you would want to be a part of?
Are blocked posters feelings less important? Am I such a bad person that can't be forgiven because I might have made some mistakes?. I am not perfect, I am here because I have personal mental issues, like must of us,but are those mistakes going to be held against me forever, even after I have changed? I have made mistakes, I have said I was sorry too. But I have also improved to be a better person, but it hard to have an incentive to do better when old stuff is help against you forever.
Would it have made some feel happy if I was never alive on this earth? Am I that bad of a person that is so hated that needs to disappear forever? Am I thought of as an abuser. If I am being thought of that way there is very little keeping me alive right now, and I don't ever want to be an abuser. If I took my life would anyone at all care? Would my mistakes still be forgiven if I am dead or would you come to my funeral and kick the gravestone too because I killed myself while being blocked? Is being blocked means you can never be forgiven ever? Am I the only person who has made mistakes here? Why can't I ever be forgiven I am not like my mom.
poster:Happyflower
thread:820804
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20080313/msgs/820804.html