Posted by Dr. Bob on March 25, 2008, at 0:05:47
In reply to A ray of hope.... » Dinah, posted by twinleaf on March 19, 2008, at 13:14:45
> there was widespread alarm and distress, which Bob should have addressed with us directly.
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> Instead, he ignored our distress and uncertainty ... We still don't know what the new rules are.
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> Long after Bob and Dinah have cleared up their differences, we are left with much higher levels of anger and frustration in our relationships with this site.
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> twinleaf> I am saddened that Bob has left us to wither and die like a worm on a hook with no seeming care about our feelings.
> It is funny how one incident can make you feel like you have no where to go. Better he never figured on that
> Dr. Bob ... just ignored us as if we are non-entities to be treated as dirt under his feet.
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> rsk> It reminds me of my family, the distance between our cities is too far from them to drive to see me and it isn't too far for me to drive to see them.
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> fayeroeI apologize for not having been able to address these issues with you directly sooner. I know it led to distress for some of you, and I really regret that. I do care about you, and realize that things I do, or don't do, can have a big effect on you.
The deputies may have clarified this already -- I'm not sure, I'm just starting to catch up -- but there aren't any new rules. Not now, anyway, and if there are later, we'll discuss it here first.
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> What do we need Bob for? ... Saying that some percentage of people are mad and sad and lost without our leader, Dr. Bob, does not address the questions I've posed in previous posts.
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> - Scott> Unfortunately, Bob doesn't govern here anymore like he did when you were first attracted to this place.
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> Toph> in Bob's absence, we are counting on you to carry out the leadership functions of supporting everyone equally, and behaving in a way which will help the board remain calm and as stress-free as possible.
> Doing what you just did for me- hearing me, and moving away from the small surface problem to the underlying larger one- was very helpful to me. I felt heard, and helped to channel my own frustration in a more positive way.
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> twinleafI'm certainly needed in some ways, and I take my responsibilities here seriously. I'm also aware that I'm not perfect. I'll try to do better.
At the same time, on an individual level, it may be worthwhile reflecting, as Scott suggested, on how my absences affect you.
And on a community level, I think responsibility and dependency are underlying larger issues. I'll post more about that later. Maybe on that positive suggestions and solutions thread, which I think was a great idea.
Bob
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