Posted by Lou Pilder on December 28, 2007, at 10:15:44
In reply to Re: clarification » Deputy 10derHeart, posted by yxibow on December 28, 2007, at 10:06:04
> > >There, the one single sentence that I forgot to put an I feel.....
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> > I'll try to clarify. The PBC wasn't about saying "I feel" at all. In fact, if you put I feel in front of that sentence, or in front of any part of it, it would still be considered uncivil.
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> > The issue is characterizing other people's posts negatively, and/or accusing them. The uncivil phrase was: "what does it accomplish to put them down." In keeping with prior practice, a post is outside the bounds of civility here when it contains language like this, as it could lead the poster in question to feel accused of putting someone down. If you see this happening, the thing to do is use the Notification button.
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> > I was well aware of your intent to support Phillipa, and that is always appreciated. It's a matter of not using potentially accusing language in your own posts when you do this. It's usually better to focus on what the other poster could do differently/better, than to point out what s/he did wrong. The civility rules are a challenge to get the hang of, but with practice, it can be done - if I could anyone can :-)
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> > I hope that helps. If not, I'm confident another deputy or Dr. Bob can articulate this even better. It's important to me posters understand, as much as possible, why we do what we do.
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> > respectfully, deputy 10derHeart
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> But that's the point, it wasn't to "defend Phillipa", that's an afterpoint I put in here. It was a general statement that the entire thread was going absolutely nowhere therapeutic.
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> At any rate, respectfully disagreeing, I think another look at what I -actually- said would be better. It really aimed at no person in particular, yes, it happened to appear to aim at the person above but it was about the spirit of things in general.
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> I would like a reclarification, but this is why I never returned to the board after nearly committing suicide late this summer and not using the computer for months. Side tangent and irrelevant, but I became disillusioned about how much was, as even Dr. Bob says -- "don't believe everything you post."yxibow,
YOu wrote,[...this is why I never returned to the board...]
I am unsure as to what you are wanting to mean concerning the {this}. Could you write here what the {this} is that you are wanting to mean here? If you could, I could have a better understanding of what you have posted here and be better able to post a response here.
Lou
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