Posted by confuzyq on August 17, 2007, at 22:12:43
In reply to Re: Accomplished the Goal » confuzyq, posted by Fivefires on August 17, 2007, at 16:25:32
> I'm too upset by this situation to further it by going backwards and forward to dissect it. Knowing myself, I anticipate feeling even more fear and unhappiness.
>=== Yes, makes sense of course. And altho my post took a roundabout path, between the options cited in it, it was intended to be strongly in favor of the not-reading-thread-at-all one. Of sparing yourself from what you were feeling. (Hopefully moot now re this case, as the thread seems to have wound down.)
Just no other good alternative sometimes. It can be so complicated when there's feeling upset by what one is reading on the one hand; or feeling upset that one might be upsetting others with what they're writing or feeling on the other!
> I understand the importance of privacy, but a week ago I felt comfortable with the privacy on this site. Now, I feel fearful of trusting other babblers. > > I'm feeling 'guarding' about using the babble feature or emailing anyone w/ whom an agreement has been made to do so. > > You may say some fear of trusting people is good. But, for me to move on in my life, I need to work on trusting again and this has felt like damage to my progress.
>=== I'm sorry to hear that. It surprised me though, since I had thought what you were expressing on the thread was that you didn't feel there necessarily were privacy violations, or a foundation to the reactions. I thought that was the main thing you found upsetting and confusing, so that's what my post to you was meant to help address!
So maybe it wasn't a disbelief in any increased vulnerabilities here that I heard, but a fear of beginning to believe in them. Ironic that perceiving it the other way was the same thing that made me think more perspective on the evolution of the thread might help. (But only for enlightenment. Didn't realize til now you were worried about many of the same things others were.)
> Babble is my only support besides my financially limited access to therapy which is an every 2wk visit with a T.
== IMHO, this too shall pass, and the things you value most here won't change.Take care,
CQ
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