Posted by Dr. Bob on July 3, 2007, at 21:01:22
In reply to Re: conflict, posted by Sigismund on June 29, 2007, at 18:38:49
> I am not doubt NOT alone in my distrust of authority, cuz w/authority comes a certain amount of power ... and humans being what they are, some abuse that power, and feeling powerless is a very frightening and sickening feeling....
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> M> I'll just pick one thing : anger
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> for instance...I am not comfortable with anger..it makes me feel guilty, however if I am met with a despicable foe, full of malice and worthy of no compassion or consideration, then I can be angry as I want to be at them...and I need not feel badly about it
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> but who am I in this instance??
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> an innocent victim, exploited, with good intentions, with fleece as white as snow, saintly, virginal, all that good stuff, etc.
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> but where is my self-centeredness, my lack of concern for other people, my ignorance, my mistakes, the false assumptions I make??
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> obsidian> I imagine the idea is that bits of ourselves are put into other people more or less compulsively. In therapy this is made explicit when the T says something like 'since you are not able to deal with such and such, I will hold it for you until you are ready to take it back'.
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> SigismundSo in this context the deputies and I might "hold" abusiveness or anger or something when posters aren't able to deal with it?
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> so back to my hating conflict...it would seem that resolving it would require some identification with the person with whom you are in conflict, an understanding of their understanding, a recognition of them in you...if they live on a whole other planet (or so it feels) then it isn't so likely
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> and if you are one of "us" and they are part of "them" well...
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> the antonym of "evil" is "righteous" which would seem to suggest to me that rage against what is "evil" can be considered sanctioned, can be "right"
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> obsidianI agree, it's really hard when things get polarized.
Bob
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