Posted by muffled on November 26, 2006, at 11:29:13
In reply to Re: crazy as a loon, posted by Dr. Bob on November 26, 2006, at 9:42:33
>I'm sorry she's blocked, too. But the issue isn't being crazy, it's being civil.
**Yo, sup with the B&W thinking Bob?
NOTHING is that simple. You can't just make people fit the box. Thats part of being nuts, you DON'T FIT THE BOX. I thot this website was supposed to be a safe place to get support.
Its not so safe here Bob.
Do you not recognize that blocks are very triggering for both the blockee AND for other posters.
I am working like a bastard to control myself.
I work at a drop in center, and if the clientele don't behave they get the boot for a day, or even a week. Its only for fighting, or dealing, or using inside . It has to be major, as we don't wish to exclude, we wish to show unconditional love, but with boundaries of course or its not a safe place for people to come to.
We do lots of PBC's too. But multiple PBC's, and blocked only if really bad behavior, to the point of actually getting hazardous to others or the continiuing of the center. There are alot of addictions and people with mental health probs go thru there. We don't end up with alot of resentment, because the blocks are obviously understandable.I think you block over stuff thats not such a big deal. Where repeated warnings would be better, except in REALLY overt cases.
If I were to bypass the asterisk and write f*ck, would I be blocked? If I did that, it would be because I was extreemly angry, and was trying to be 'bad', without being too bad.
At the drop in center, if people do something like cussing out a volunteer, they out for the day only usu, cuz its just words and not threats. There's such a huge difference btwn actually attempting or threatening to hurt someone, and just expressing frustration, in not perhapsd the best way, but not the worst way either.
I beleive in a cap for blocks because anything much more than a week is WAY too ostracizing to a person.
I know there are other ways to connect, but its not the same. You are still ostracized, and ashamed before all. And that after exposing some of who you really are.
Your site has many good points Bob. Thank you.
But IMO the ease and severity of blocks is an ongoing and serious problem that you need to address.
Muffled
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