Posted by muffled on October 23, 2006, at 20:26:12
In reply to Re: hurt, posted by Dr. Bob on October 23, 2006, at 17:19:15
> > Hurt happens.
> > Hurt done INTENTIONALLY is not so nice.
>
> I agree, for the most part everyone's really supportive. I appreciate that -- and may not say so enough. The exceptions can become the focus of attention.**Thank you.
Yes, exceptions.....there are even a multitude of exceptions to the exceptions....
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> Intent is difficult. It's hard for me to know someone's intent. Intent may not be black-and-white. Intentional hurt may also be able to be worked out. And unintentional hurt still hurts.**I also agree that intent can be puzzling. I sometimes think the intent is to get oneself blocked on purpose!
But this is where you entirely keep losing me Bob...
'Intentional hurt may also be able to be worked out', but if a person is blocked, how is he/she supposed to be able to do that?
And yes, unitentional hurt still hurts. It CAN hurt just as much. But not usually. I think if the person is given the opportunity to see that they have caused hurt, and given the opportunity to apologize, then that is VERY supportive....
IF they are given the opportunity that is...Have you ever considered, that a block, which you KNOW for a fact will cause hurt (therefore its intentional.....), over something that may or may not cause hurt, and may or may not have been intentional, well, to me it just doesn't balance out.
To intentionally cause hurt, where there is a possibility it could justifiably been avoided. That there may have been a less painful solution to the prob....
Hurt could have been completely avoided....
And personal and interpersonal growth(and trust and camaraderie) could occur as a result....
What a fine result that would be!
But its like you don't trust us to even try to work it out :-(
The heavy (if somewhat misguided.... imo ;-} )hand of Bob comes down to stop us before we even have a chance...Hmmmm, just some thots.
More pbc's, less blocks....
Fosters growth IMO.
Honest communication, with NO intent to cause harm or discomfort. Just trying to get you to think. And understand what I am inadequately trying to communicate... And trying to lighten up w/humour.
Thats all.
Muffled
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