Posted by Racer on October 7, 2006, at 13:22:33
In reply to Re: Blocks do cause hurt » NikkiT2, posted by Deneb on October 7, 2006, at 0:41:34
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> I think, I think I *am* angry about having been blocked. I thought the punishment for *me* was too severe.Are you angry that someone punished you? Or are you "angry," in more a sense of disappointed, at yourself for the behavior that led to the block? I guess what I'm asking is whether you know what you did that led to the block, why it was a problem? Does that make sense?
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> It's all very bizarre. On the one hand I love Dr. Bob and don't want to hurt him, but on the other I'm angry at what he did and I want to make him feel bad. I think...I think I've separated Dr. Bob into two people almost. The everyday Bob didn't block me and I love that Bob. The Bob who blocked me I'm angry with.
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> I love Bob, yet I can get angry at him. That leaves me confused.
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> Must be that black and white thinking or something.
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> Deneb*It's related to the black and white thinking, Deneb. As Dinah has already mentioned, part of "growing up" -- or whatever you want to call it -- is getting past the idea that anyone is ALL good or ALL bad. The fact that you can hold two conflicting "Bobs" in your head at one time, the Bob you "love" and the Bob you're angry at, and know that they're the same person -- that's called "progress." ;-)
I need to say something else about blocks hurting, though. And I'll resist the temptation to make any reference to ASPD...
I was blocked a bit more than a year ago, for one week. It didn't feel good, because I am used to posting freely on Babble, whenever I've got something to say. Not having that freedom wasn't a good feeling.
BUT I knew what I had done, I knew I borke the rules -- I knew before posting that I was at the very least flirting with a block before posting my offending post. So, I sat out my block knowing that I'd earned it, in a big way, and I felt no anger towards Bob for blocking me. I didn't feel hurt by his action in blocking me. I didn't feel excluded by it, because I knew it was temporary. It really wasn't painful, in any larger sense. Really, I think I was just feeling a little bored by not having the opportunity to post on Babble. I could still read, so I didn't feel locked out.
Just so that people know that there are other reactions to being blocked. I don't think I'm the only one who reacts this way to being blocked, either. Yes, being blocked can be painful for people. It can also be painLESS for some otherwise normally socialized people...
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