Posted by Racer on September 16, 2006, at 1:01:23
In reply to Re: you really believe this? » Racer, posted by alexandra_k on September 15, 2006, at 23:52:45
> > It seems to me that the civility guidelines are posted, they're available for people to read, and it's a choice to abide by them or not.
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> so people who are blocked have consciously chosen not to follow the civility rules?Depends on how you define "consciously." If you mean it in the sense of saying, "Hey! I know! I'll break the civility rules today!" then no, I don't think it's conscious.
What I do think, though, is that anyone who's been here for a while knows that there are limits in place on behavior, and that posting while highly emotional may lead to breaking those rules. In that sense, the conscious choice is to post, despite knowing that one is upset and liable to say something that isn't considered civil.
So, yes, I do believe what I wrote. That's why I wrote it... ;-)
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> > What's more, blocks are usually preceeded by warnings. Therefore, I think blocks are earned, not bestowed.
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> 'earned'. you really think this?
>Yes. I do.
Does that mean that I agree with every decision made by Dr Bob or the Deputies? Of course not! It does mean, though, that I think that Dr Bob can be in charge, because it's his clubhouse. One of the priviledges of ownership.
And you know what else? I know a lot of people may not agree with this, but I believe that Dr Bob tries to be fair. I believe that he makes every effort to be fair. There have been times when I think that he should enforce the SPIRIT of the civility guidelines rather than the letter, but I think he avoids that in order to be as fair as possible. He's fallible. He's human. But he tries.
The bottom line for me, though, in this and everything else about this site, is that I get the support I need here -- and I am in favor of whatever allows a group this large to coexist with a modicum of peace. I want to see this place continue, because I want to continue to give and receive support from others here. If that means not allowing my emotions to run away with me...
You know what, though? In the real world out there, if I let my emotions run away with me, and I say things in a fit of pique, it's gonna lead to me being "blocked" by the real world people around me, too. In that sense, Babble is a good learning place for me.
For what it's worth, although I do periodically post things that, you know, earn me a spanking, I try to remind myself not to post until I've had a chance to calm down. I'll write to GG, sometimes, and ask her to help me express myself without breaking the rules. There are others I also get feedback from. Civility Buddies, which I think is a good idea.
Sorry, Alex. I do run on, don't I? I know you probably don't agree with a lot of what I've said, but I've offered you my honest opinions, and I hope you'll respect my beliefs.
Peace.
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