Posted by Dinah on August 20, 2006, at 14:57:46
In reply to Re: I have two general admin suggestions » Dinah, posted by Toph on August 20, 2006, at 13:38:47
I think I used a mother as an example. And said that radical acceptance means accepting that the mother was who the mother was. But that it was not contrary to radical acceptance to set boundaries. :)
Blocks and sanctions are boundaries. Dr. Bob has said that certain things are and aren't allowed on his site. It isn't necessarily a lack of acceptance at all, and almost certainly not a lack of radical acceptance, just a statement of what is allowed *here*.
IMO, radical acceptance and boundary setting are both very healthy, and not at all incompatible.
Also, radical acceptance doesn't imply approval. Just acknowledgement that what is, is. Gardenergirl explained it better than I can.
However, I'll go further to say that I not only accept you in the more usual sense of the word, I like you. And if I ever sanction a post of yours, it isn't because I don't accept you or don't like you. I'm just helping Dr. Bob enforce the boundaries he has set for his site.
And this is really a personal question, and you don't have to answer, but I wonder if your parents were clear in separating acceptance of you from boundary setting and consequence enforcing? You really don't have to answer. :) I just have inferred that we have differing views on authority and I was interested in possible explanations for how people come to view authority differently.
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