Posted by Dinah on July 24, 2006, at 10:27:12
In reply to Re: About venting » Dinah, posted by laima on July 24, 2006, at 9:59:27
> Thank you for helping me understand the rules better Dinah, and I would have to agree- posting while upset is proving to be a really foolish idea- at least in my case. Posting late at night while under influence of ambien has been especially disasterous. I'm still going to try to "cool it" for awhile, and I'm embarressed.
There's no reason to be embarassed, but if you need help understanding the rules as they apply to any particular case, it might be better to contact a deputy or Dr. Bob.
> I've reviewed the rules, but evidently not carefully enough, because I thought I already knew what "civil" is. I guess on a blog like this one, "civil" needs to be particularly specific. That makes sense.
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> Then the poster's brother threw a slew of false, extreme accusations at me, but that elicited no response or warnings.Now, you see, that is a statement that isn't allowed under the civility guidelines. You can't characterize another person's post in such a way that may lead them to feel accused or put down.
> Regardless, I understand now why I received my own warning, and I am extremely happy and encouraged that the person I argued with and I later seem to have reached a genuine mutual understanding and respect of where we were both coming from, and why we each said what we did. As of yesterday, I think the particular issue is cooled off and resolved, thank goodness. Sincerely, I can't speak for anyone else, but the experience ended up to be very educational in numerous ways, and being able to resolve the conflict with the other poster was very rewarding, and renewed my faith and confidence about being able to work conflicts out with people. (This definately does not mean I'm looking for more, though!)
I'm not familiar with the incident, but if it appeared resolved, with apologies on all sides, there probably wouldn't be any administrative involvement.
> Maybe I'm about to find the answer to this question clearly stated in a moment when I go to the rule section- but do I understand, then, that if something offensive or attack-like turns up it is better to not respond, but rather contact a deputy?
That's probably best, especially if you aren't clear on the rules. Another option is to post on Admin a simple link to the URL with a neutral request for review. It isn't necessary to state on board why you think that the post needs reviewing, since that could lead you into tricky civility waters.
I hope you're able to find what you wish to find in Babble.
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