Posted by Tamar on June 20, 2006, at 19:00:58
In reply to Re: Please be civil question » Dinah, posted by zazenduck on June 20, 2006, at 18:34:10
Hey Zazenduck,
It sounds to me as if you’re frustrated and angry. And if that’s true, I’m sorry you’re hurting.
But I also felt upset when I read your post to Dinah. If I’d had those words directed towards me I’d feel very hurt; and so I imagine Dinah feeling hurt, and that upsets me a lot because I love Dinah.
I agree that child abuse isn’t funny. I was triggered by some of the posts which featured remarks about punishment of children. It’s a subject I find deeply shameful and distressing. I can’t quite understand how people can talk about it in any tone other than utmost seriousness.
But I think Larry was right about trying to help people understand why it triggers us. I think it’s the best way forward. Ultimately, I think it’s the best way to get what we want.
Meanwhile, if you’re feeling angry and triggered, how about coming over to Social or Psychology and starting a thread. You don’t have to say anything deeply personal, but sometimes if you open up just a crack people will step in and offer support and comfort.
Tamar
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