Posted by special_k on April 12, 2006, at 22:41:52
In reply to Re: the blocking policies » special_k, posted by gabbi~1 on April 12, 2006, at 20:38:20
> Well, mostly it was when I read that you knew got people wound up that I got really angry.
ah. i don't think i ever mean to hurt people. but yeah, provoke people to THINK i do think i try and do that - i don't try to provoke people to ANGER i don't think... sometimes i know people are likely to feel upset... re politics... i guess i think / feel that sometimes a little provoking (to THINK) is good for us (even if it does hurt a little) i don't know... i don't know what to say... but i don't mean to hurt :-( though sometimes when i'm in a state maybe i do a little :-( but then it is something i beat myself up over (really...) but i'm trying not to beat myself up :-( but maybe i should :-( i don't know... hard issue for me, i'm sorry :-(
> Whatever, specific to politics maybe, maybe not..yeah. thinking about civilians who are killed... people living on the streets... people living on welfare... it is hard yes. a little bit of hurt... the potential for lots of innocent lives to be saved... i don't know what to say... if people feel upset / pissed then they tend to tune out anyways...
> In some ways you are exquisitely sensitive to people.
:-)
i try. but yeah in 'some ways' and not so much in others... but i'm trying (maybe i'm very trying) but i am trying...> You're a bundle of contradictions.
yeah. depends what mood / state i'm in... i had a teacher at school who said i reminded her of this poem about the girl with a curl right in the middle of her forehead and when she was good she was really really good and when she was bad she was horrid. she meant that affectionately too... maybe there is some truth to that. :-( i don't know... :-(
> The apology is hard, because I've read a couple of posts where you said that you that you tend to apologize when you don't mean it.no. i mean apologies when i say them. i do. i can't quite remember the post you are talking about...
i think it goes like this...
i do have a tendancy to fall over myself apologising for my own existence (when i'm in a self-depreciatory mood)
when i'm in one of those spaces i'm not sure what i'm apologising for (unless it is my own existence)
i am always sorry when people feel hurt in response to something i've said...
because i really don't mean to hurt.
or if i do mean to hurt just a little bit...
when someone actually does feel hurt
then i feel horrified at what i've done.
but re: what i've said... sometimes i'm not sorry for what i've said. i'm sorry that people had the response they did to what i said. i never meant for them to respond that way. but that doesn't necessarily mean that i think i said anything wrong. that i wish i could take back hwat i said. that i wish they didn't feel upset - sure. but that i wish i'd never said it... sometimes not.if i post about SI and someone is triggered...
i'm very sorry they feel triggered :-(
but i don't necessarily wish i could take back what i said...does this make sense?
but...
probably should be getting back to topic...
YES i think that as blocks are increased for subsequent offences...
blocks should be reduced for periods of good behaivour.and that might be the best we are going to get out of bob for a while...
and there is the danger of posters becoming divided..
or talking about all kinds of other changes that aren't going to be happening any time soon...
so that we will go along like this for a while...
and nothing will change...
and the status quo will be preserved.that is how these conversations tend to go...
people get upset...
eventually it is better for bob to look like he is actually considering some change
(preferably one that posters will be divided on so he will never have to do it)
and the status quo is preserved...
sigh.
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