Posted by tealady on February 1, 2006, at 19:29:30
In reply to Re: Dr. Bob....what is a sleepygirl to do? » sleepygirl, posted by teejay on January 31, 2006, at 8:45:34
> Hi sleepygirl
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> I can understand your angst! Someone clearly posts in a provocative manner and when you say "Oi, behave yourself", YOU are the one that gets pulled up for not being civil. Seen it happen a thousand times around here sadly.
>I agree sleepygirl. Best to just ignore it, it's a pity they not only get away with it, but are encouraged and enpowered by it.
The important thing is though, just be yourself and don't stoop to(what you get the impression of at least) their posting style.
I personally think this is where the civility guidleines fall down .. over and over again, by encouraging and rewarding this style of writing.
I realise Dr Bob's intentions though, and I have no easy answer. I do think it's a sad outcome though, and in my book at least, I much prefer an open, more direct style of communication, without personal attacks of course.
Of course, as you say, you could have just been misinterpreting the meaning, due to background differences :-)> A piece of advice if I may be so bold....find the people that have advice or information which helps YOU, and ditch the rest in the cyber dustbin as they will only be negative influences on you.
>That's the only way I can cope too
> Another thing, try and avoid the admin board like the plague! Its probably one of the most depressing and negative places I've ever been to. I'm only here at the moment as i'm angry that declan got banned for some ridiculous length of time for suggesting George dubya is incompetent! (as if??? LOL)Declan is an asset to the alternative board (which is where i normally hang out) and want to see him back pronto :-)
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me too, though I don't think he's incompetent actually ;-).. but that's politics.. and I ain't getting into it!!LOL (after 3 days of trying to calm down, LOL. )Cheer up sleepygirl, run your posts by a buddy as was suggested if you want to respond.
Usually I don't bother to respond, and rarely bother to read posts by some either.. that way I don't waste my time upsetting myself.
If I want to waste my time, I want to enjoy myself doing it:)Jan
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