Posted by alexandra_k on January 20, 2006, at 23:05:53
In reply to Re: people are harmed here emotionally » alexandra_k, posted by Deneb on January 20, 2006, at 22:56:42
> sorry Alexandra about the tone of my post
thats okay. sorry if there was a tone in mine...
> I'm not making much sense, I know.
lol me neither ;-)
> Don't know what to think anymore.
hmm.
how about thinking that there are people here who care about you very much. and you know this because people email you and stuff. and you get people responding to your threads and stuff. and you get welcomed back after a block...and about dr-bob...
my guess would be that he does care about individuals the way that a teacher cares about the kids in her class. and he has said little things to that effect. he put your pic up... he has said he cared about us at various points... he is prepared to meet you in toronto even if you are the only one who is going.i think what can be hard is the idea that someone can care... and can know that their action will hurt another... but can still do it.
i mean... you know by now that some people get upset when you post about feeling low...
but you post about feeling low anyway. and that is okay.and i figure... dr bob knows by now that some people get upset when they are blocked... but he blocks them anyway. and that doesn't mean that he doesn't care. he does it because he believes that is best for the group as a whole. and he has to look after the group ahead of individuals. like how a teacher has to look after the class as a whole ahead of individuals. in the sense that... some kids will get suspended for distrupting the classroom.
it is a hard thing to grasp... and i think it is something that tends to come and go.
a while back you talked about making a list of things for yourself. a list of things that were evidence that he didn't hate you. did you ever get around to that?
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