Posted by Dr. Bob on January 9, 2006, at 1:11:42
In reply to Re: Dr. Bob, a few questions. . . » Dinah, posted by Sarah T. on January 7, 2006, at 13:13:12
> For now, I'll just say that I think it depends a lot on the extent of the threats, how long they've been going on, on this board, and whether or not the person is getting help and treatment.
I agree, it depends on a lot of factors...
> I understand that if someone is new to this board and/or new to therapy, they may not know yet that there are healthier ways to cope with their feelings... But, as far as this most recent problem is concerned, that is not the case.
People can know there are healthier ways, but knowing can be one thing and doing another...
> Some Babblers "opted out," and refused to participate in those threads. Others became worried and tried to help with a "tough love" approach. Others tried to help with the "infinite patience" approach. It didn't matter. The threats escalated.
It's a good question, what the best way might be to handle these situations. Maybe I should try to say something pre-emptive about "tough love". And add something about it to the FAQ. Some sites just don't allow discussion of self-injury or suicidal ideation. IMO, it's not necessarily a bad system if some people opt out, others are patient, and there's discussion about what might be helpful for all involved.
> I feel as if I'm being toyed with. It's hard to describe, but it's a feeling of being lured or tantalized. I feel as if I'm being fooled.
You feel helpless? You may not be the only one...
Bob
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