Posted by Tamar on October 19, 2005, at 20:04:38
In reply to Re: Tamar, posted by alexandra_k on October 17, 2005, at 16:12:50
Hi Alex,
> I think I see what you mean.
> There was such a contrast between some posts that were very intimate...
> And other posts in which the poster didn't seem to see or want to see the people involved. To see their perspective, to see their feelings.Yeah, I guess that was a major part of it. The contrast.
> And so...
>
> One may well be led to feel used
> Or violatedI’ve been struggling for the right word for the last two days. And I think the word I want is harassed. I felt harassed… because harassment can often come disguised as a compliment, and I didn’t feel that the post to me was really complimentary because of the tone I perceived in the posts on Admin. You’re right: it was the contrast.
> I'm sorry I invalidated your feelings
>
> Very sorry indeedNo need to apologise! I didn’t think you invalidated my feelings. It’s OK for you to ask why I feel the way I feel. Sometimes it takes me two days to explain… I was just very upset about the situation, but I wasn’t upset at you.
> Sometimes...
> It can be hard to know whether our emotions are rationally grounded or not
> It is something I struggle with
> Explanation in order to see whether they are justified responses to the present or not
> I have immense difficulty...
>
> I apologise for dragging you into that.Again, no need to apologise. It’s an important issue. Sometimes our emotions aren’t rationally grounded. I still don’t know whether my feelings about Scambuster’s posts were rationally grounded, but I do believe I had good reasons for feeling I wanted to question his/her motivation once I discovered it was a blocked poster…
(((((Alex)))))
Take care,
Tamar
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