Posted by alexandra_k on October 11, 2005, at 1:26:56
In reply to Re: in case you haven't noticed..., posted by alexandra_k on October 10, 2005, at 23:52:47
i've just started stressing...
and i most probably should have kept my thoughts to myself...maybe i'm having an extreme reaction to something that is grounded in the present situation...
or maybe i'm having an extreme reaction to something that is not grounded in the present situation...
sometimes i lose it a little and i can't tell...
i can't tell...:-(
i really don't mean to upset anyone...
though i guess i'm finding it a bit upsetting myself...sorry.
but...
i have been looking through the archives a lot...
trying to find that post...
(which was actually found ages ago lol)
and its hard to tell whether this is right or not...but it seems to me...
that dr-bob has posted quite a lot of questions / inquiries / thoughts / references on ideas about how the group could be best moderated. about the ways other groups are moderated. about how those groups compare to this group. about things like conflict and levels of involvements and the kinds of posters. about fight / flight responses and scapegoating.
and it seems to me...
like he has been looking for something...
validation?
do you need to move on for you dr-bob?
i appreciate that when you are more involved in the boards it must take up quite a lot of your time and energy. and those are scarce resources. i appreciate that.
i just thought that stuff was about seeing what made babble different. unique. because i've had a bit of a look around at different online forums. and i reckon babble is the best. and i guess most of us do or we wouldn't be here.
but maybe you wanted reassurance that the boards would be okay without you. or with a lot less imput from you.
i guess the boards would be okay in a way. more like lots of other boards that are out there. more like the boards many of us passed over once we found this one. but maybe... you think they have posters over there that you think would be able to benefit this community. in ways that current posters don't. maybe you want to attract those posters? the ones who aren't here because of you. but then that doesn't seem right to me.
so i'm wondering whether you were looking for validation.
i'm sorry :-(
if you need to move on for you then i guess we will just have to accept that.
things will change...
people will leave.
people will come.but i guess things change (albeit at a slower pace) anyway...
but don't try and convince us that you are doing it for us :-(
because i don't believe you.
please can you just tell us what is going on?
if i am way over-reacting then i will feel like a right *ss. but at this point i really don't care. please just tell us something :-(
poster:alexandra_k
thread:564410
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20050823/msgs/565562.html