Posted by alexandra_k on June 14, 2005, at 17:33:58
In reply to Re: Lou's reply to Midnight Blue- » Lou Pilder, posted by alexandra_k on June 13, 2005, at 16:22:08
> I hear what you are saying Lou, and I understand your reasons.
> But can you hear what others are saying and can you understand their reasons when they say that they feel like they have fallen short of the mark when you haul their posts over here and request determination on them.
> I know you don't intend this to happen,
> But you do get that it is an unintended consequence of your doing that - right?I mean actions do have consequences. And a consequence of asking for frequent civility determinations to be made on peoples posts is that people are going to take that personally. Even if you don't intend it that way it is hard to not take it personally. I think people have requested civility determinations on your posts too. And it is hard to not take it personally.
And then one starts to question oneself and worry about expressing oneself.
I'm not sure that asking for civility determinations is making the rules any clearer either for you or for anyone else. If they were helping clarify then I would expect that they would become more accurate and be requested less often. But that doesn't seem to be happening.
I don't know...
It is hard to figure how much to change what one does because of the way in which people respond to it.
I'm struggling with that myself right now, so maybe this is more about me than about you. If so then I guess thats ok, just take what you want from it.
I guess I think that you have to realise that certain actions will lead to certain results. This is something that I am thinking about with respect to me too. And so one has to think about whether the results are worth it.
What is one hoping to achieve by what one is doing?
Is there another way to do it that won't have unplesant consequences?
Is it worth is?I don't know...
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