Posted by Racer on June 12, 2005, at 13:41:46
In reply to Lou's response to aspects of this thread, posted by Lou Pilder on June 12, 2005, at 9:14:35
> Friends,
> I am requesting that you consider the following when you post to this thread.
> A. Whose posts is Minnie referring to?
> B. Are they mine? If not could you show that the poster in question here is not me?
> C. If so, is the other post about my posts and thearfore me?
> D. Would you want to endorse what could be meant about ,if it is me, or anyone else, in this thread?
> E. Do you think that there is a person that is referred to in this, as to possibly be me, thread that {has a compulsion to...express a need to hurt someone else...]?
> F.In the statement,[...have an obsession to be Bob...], would you want to endorse that statement being if the person is me or even someone else?
> G. In the statement,[...repeated objectionable posts...], would you want to endorse that being a reference to me or even someone else?
> H. Even if the statements are not about me, and anyone is invited to show that the person is not me, would you want to endorse these statements if they had the potential to arrouse ill-will toward me or anyone else?
> Lou
>
Lou, I wonder if you could take a look at your point from another perspective? I'm not suggesting that your perspective is wrong, only that there are other perspectives which you may not have considered. Please do not take this suggestion as criticism -- I'm only trying to show you what it looks like from over here where I sit.While I hardly ever read the Admin board, when I do come over here, I see multiple threads where you've asked Dr Bob for a "determination" regarding whether or not something was appropriate, or within the civility guidelines of this site. In virtually every case, there are a large number of responses to your post -- and it seems as though many of those responses state that another poster's feelings were hurt by your post. In other words, by your own voluntary actions, others have been experienced hurt feelings.
Admittedly, I have not read every post that you've brought over here, but those that I have read seem mostly to have beenwritten in good faith, with no intention to hurt someone else. In some cases, maybe someone just doesn't have great communication skills, or hasn't thought through all the possible interpretations that could be made from their words. Yes, there are some people who come to this site only to stir up trouble, or a very small number of people here who have taken a dislike to one or another member and will snipe a bit. Dr Bob seems to catch most of those posters, though, and deal with them accordingly.
After coming to these boards for the past seven years, I'd say that most everyone here -- despite mental illness, which we share in common -- is well-meaning, and mostly we all get along. Sure, there are exceptions, but mostly this is a pretty good crowd, wouldn't you say?
Going back to what you wrote, though, in your post, can you clarify something? You ask in several places whether or not we would endorse the statements made in previous posts in this thread if those statements referred to you. Yes, you did ask if we would endorse those statements even if they didn't refer to you, but the basic idea that I got from it is that you were concerned about how we might view uncomplimentary statements about you. My question is this: if those statements are about something you wrote, and you feel justified in what you wrote -- even if someone else's feelings were hurt by it -- does it really matter how anyone else feels? Isn't there some measure of personal responsibility on your side, for writing the posts in question in the first place?
Lou, I don't know you, nor even really "know" you in board terms, but your post here seems from my reading to neglect the aspect of personal responsibility. I've just written a bit more than I meant to, and I do apologize if your feelings were hurt by it. That truly was not my intention. I was just hoping to offer a little of my own perspective to you, for your consideration.
Peace.
poster:Racer
thread:510617
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20050530/msgs/511509.html