Posted by Minnie-Haha on June 12, 2005, at 11:59:07
In reply to Re: parties, posted by alexandra_k on June 11, 2005, at 20:22:10
> In a big party...
> You might only get to say a quick 'hi' to someone who you really wanted to talk to.And even at a big party, there are people who tend to congregate in groups, and others who mingle and enjoy talking with everybody and anybody. I am in the former group... I am very uncomfortable mingling. It's not that I don't like the other people (oh sure, there might be one or two), but that when I have to start trying to make small talk with others, especially quite a few others I don't know, my heart starts racing, I feel tense. It's tough. My husband is a manager in his company, so I see it as my duty to go the the company holiday party and be "sociable." It's so stressful for me.
As for wanting a separate space to meet in (once again, where there is no-one at the door saying "You -- OK. You? No way," but of course where the fire marshal has posted a max-occupation notice), I see it as the same sort of thing, just a comfort zone. And when some exit, others are welcome to enter. (For instance, my son has sensory issues -- especially to noise and touch. Large, noisy, touchy gatherings really scare the crap out of him. But if you put him in a small room with a few people, he does much better.)
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