Posted by alexandra_k on June 11, 2005, at 20:04:56
In reply to Re: Lou's request to the administration, posted by so on June 11, 2005, at 18:54:04
>but no administrative effort was afforded to mitigate the impact the statments had on me, regardless my tedious efforts to articulate how I reacted to them.
It didn't sound like they bothered you to start with. It sounded like you were concerned for some hypothetical person who might be bothered by them. It did seem to take some time before you said that actually you did feel hurt by them.
When I feel hurt by something that somebody has said then I find it useful to post something to the poster saying how I felt in response to whatever bits. That way we can sort things out for ourselves rather than me running off to Dr Bob to sort it out. I think most posters appreciate and respect that. It gives them a chance to clarify or apologise. And it tends to make them feel more charitable towards the person who feels offended.
The boards are here for us to support each other and find out information. The rules are supposed to facilitate that. One can get so lost in trying to understand the rules that the purpose of the boards just escapes one.
> If Lou vicariously felt something untoward about somebody laughing in the face of mortal circumstances, he would seem correct to bring his concerns to this board, regardless whether the parties in question felt or intended a put-down.They were laughing in the face of their own mortal circumstances. Not anybody elses. And not mortal circumstances that were under their control (ie via self injury). The laughter was one of those coping strategies in the sense that without it they would be feeling quite despairing. IMO that makes a hell of a difference.
>After all, if we are now allowed to joke about death, I could tell some very interesting stories...
Do you get the difference???
If you don't then theres nothing I can say.
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