Posted by Toph on June 11, 2005, at 16:21:17
In reply to Re: whatever changes are necessary, posted by Dr. Bob on June 11, 2005, at 11:34:41
> > Some people would rather be despised than ignored.
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> Wouldn't it be nice if there were other alternatives?
>Yes, and there are, of course. You suggest change in your title. Having a desire to change oneself certainly increases the likelihood for change.
> > when I am shown that I have upset another person, either accidentally, intentionally, or even justifiably, I am or I strive to be remorseful, and I strive to make whatever changes are necessary to avoid such harmful actions from reocurring.
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> Even if you think it's justifiable?
>Yes, I hate it when I upset someone. I make observations, corrections, suggestions and criticisms that I frequently regret, not because I was unjustified in my actions, but because the result was harmful in some way. I have learned that rules of civil discourse are necessary for a supportive forum. But those I prefer to associate with most here have another characteristic that appeals to me. They are considerate. They care about the feelings of others and endeavor to consider the reaction of others in the judicious use of their powerful words and thoughts. I wish I were more considerate and I hope that if people repeatedly asked me to be less disruptive, hyper-sensitive, judgemental, hyper-vigilant, obsessive, critical or inconsiderate that I would listen. And so as not to be hypocritical, I am sorry if my prior words in this thread were hurtful to anyone who may have identified with them.
Toph
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