Posted by alexandra_k on October 31, 2004, at 19:43:43
In reply to PBC's and Clarification., posted by alexandra_k on October 31, 2004, at 15:12:57
A while back I posted this (which you did not respond to).
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20041012/msgs/407274.html
It wasn't just a rhetorical device, I was seeking clarification.
In my opinion when someone is expressing their feelings or opinions AS their feelings or opinions then that is fine. If others are hurt or feel accused as a result of this then they need to realise that that is their issue.
When someone is saying they feel that way in response to something someone has done then that may well depend. Here clarifications could be useful. Or requests to rephrase.
When someone makes a (negative) factual claim about another then PBC's are appropriate.
Just my 2 cents worth.
Not sure whether my way of carving the situation up is adequate or not.. Don't know too much about attribution theory etc. But I like the above, and think that it would add a bit more clarity to the civility limits. Currently I am struggling to find an order to what is increasingly seeming like chaos to me (NOTE: THAT IS IN MY OPINION). I am starting to feel a bit 'paranoid' about civility warnings. And I am starting to feel like I can't trust my own judgement on this.
Regards.
poster:alexandra_k
thread:409648
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20041027/msgs/409772.html