Posted by Dinah on October 5, 2004, at 19:42:42
In reply to Hi, remember me? :), posted by Kali Munro on October 4, 2004, at 20:54:45
Thank you for making yourself available again. I know you were very helpful last time.
I'm not sure if this question falls into your area of expertise or not, and I apologize if it doesn't.
Long term Babblers seem to have a relationship with the board itself, separate from fellow posters and even Dr. Bob. And unfortunately, as in all relationships, it's all too easy to disengage, emotionally divorce the board, as time after time it hurts emotionally to be here. Mind you, I've always said that that which brings you the greatest joy can also bring you the greatest pain. I see so many of my friends disengage or leave entirely. My own relationship with Babble has been stormy at times.
I recently compared my relationship with Babble to my relationship with my therapist. Naturally one is a person, the other a community, but I see a lot of parallels.
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20040218/msgs/315688.html
My question is When is the relationship worth fighting for? And if you find it is, how do you recover from the blows that can be inflicted here on Babble and reingage? It's not exactly like another person because you can't really talk it out in the same way. You can't really have a back and forth until the other person understands the way you can with a person. You can lower expectations and be flexible as you can with a person, I suppose.
But are there some relationship skills that apply to a poster's relationship to the group as a whole that differ from relationship skills between people?
How to decide if it's worth fighting for? And if so, how better to fight for the relationship?
poster:Dinah
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URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20040927/msgs/399369.html