Posted by Jai Narayan on October 5, 2004, at 8:43:13
In reply to Hi, remember me? :), posted by Kali Munro on October 4, 2004, at 20:54:45
Hi Kali,
Welcome back. Thanks Dr. Bob. I thought you were great. you helped me a lot.My new problem:
I had been posting to a person and another person became part of my connection with the first person.
I felt uncomfortable in the 3-way connection, expressed my discomfort and withdrew. It was not a graceful disentanglement.
I continued to communicate with the original person and that suited me.
Recently the other person posted something unkind and hurtful about me. The statement was a projection of my feelings about a situation. The projected feelings I was supposed to have were untrue. I was frozen and didn’t know what to do. So I did nothing.
Of course I wanted to say that the projected feelings were not at all what I was feeling. In fact I was feeling sympathetic toward the person and saddened by their situation. But was concerned that anything I had to say would be misinterpreted. So I said nothing.
Is this the best way to communicate by not communicating?
Do you agree that to "not engage" is the best action?
poster:Jai Narayan
thread:398972
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