Posted by tabitha on August 21, 2004, at 15:51:58
In reply to Re: being civil » fires, posted by Larry Hoover on August 21, 2004, at 13:20:15
Here's a hint about how to make sure your "I feel" statement is not really just a disguised you-statement. If you can replace the "I feel" with "I think", or totally drop the "I feel" and it still makes sense, then it's not really a feeling statement. Here's an example:
I feel your post was offensive.
- still makes sense as:
I think your post was offensive.
- or just:
Your post was offensive.On the other had, if you say:
I feel hurt reading your post.
- then it's a real feeling statement. Wouldn't make sense as:
I think hurt reading your post.
- or:
Hurt reading your post.See the difference?
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