Posted by Shar on June 25, 2004, at 23:36:22
In reply to Re: starting over » Dr. Bob, posted by NikkiT2 on June 25, 2004, at 4:54:48
It seems that part of the purpose here is to provide support. When support occurs, a connection is (usually) made between two people. If an insult or other form of dissing occurs, a connection is NOT made, one knows who one wants to stay AWAY from (not respond or maybe even read their posts).
In the case of a name change, it might be a second chance, but given the nature of personalities (as in 'a leopard doesn't change its spots') one person is automatically in a one-down position.
For example, someone who was terribly rude to me and hurt me awfully, changes their posting name. A name change does not mean that THEY have changed, just a superficial aspect of them in an extremely public forum. So, I could be concerned about them and express as much in subsequent posts, and (given human nature) they are in a perfect position to ambush me when I express that concern (or, wait until I post something near and dear to my heart, and then ambush me).
Sometimes there are very good reasons for name changes, so I'm not suggesting it be disallowed. Just...in general, without a 'good' reason, I'm not comfortable with it.
Cynically (or is it paranoidly?) yours,
Shar
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