Posted by Dr. Bob on June 24, 2004, at 19:24:48
In reply to this is the internet.., posted by NikkiT2 on June 23, 2004, at 5:20:08
> Speaking as one of the fragile ones, how can I receive more support from others when it feels unsafe to post when certain posters are using the thread for less than noble purposes?
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> AphroditePeople can post to you even if you're not posting yourself. Maybe it would feel safer if you ignored those posts?
> This forum is not the place I would expect to be challenged in my choice of modalities. Encouraged, yes; supported, yes; questioned as to the validity of my choice? Absolutely NOT.
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> partlycloudyWhat if your choice were a particular medication?
> People have been sanctioned for saying negative things about anti-benzo sites, yet the statement:
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> "In many ways PT has actually gotten worse since then: examples such as rebirthing therapy, Recovered memory therapy, and MPD (dissociative disorder) therapy have become quite the "in style" therapies, but they are HIGHLY questionable, if not outright frauds, as my links have demonstrated."
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> is just dandy.
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> Does anyone know if Dr. Bob gets grant money from the manufacturers of Effexor?
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> DinahWeren't the negative things about the anti-benzo sites stronger than "HIGHLY questionable, if not outright frauds"?
Unfortunately, I'm not receiving grant money from anyone. Don't you think there are a lot of posts here critical of Effexor?
> > Psychoanalysis has never been shown to help any condition, with the exception of the therapists bank account.
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> I absolutely agree with Dinah. I read this statement, especially the use of the word "never", to be a sweeping generalization about psychoanalysis. I also read it to be an untrue statement, as psychoanalysis certainly has helped people in the past, and is currently helping posters on this forum.
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> gardenergirlIt's sweeping, yes, but I took it to mean that no study has shown psychoanalysis to be effective for any particular diagnosis, not that psychoanalysis has never helped any individual.
> I feel that he ignored my main points when I tried to disagree with him.
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> I can't help suspecting, because of his style, that he might have other motives.
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> I won't be responding to any further posts from him> I'm like a moth to the flame here. I teethed on arguments like this, and it's just *so* hard to decline to participate when I disagree about something that I think is important.
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> pegasusI agree, if you feel upset by someone, it may be best just not to respond -- or not even to read. Which may be easier said than done, I know, but may also be worth working at...
There may be posters who try to start arguments and upset others. Of course, not everyone who starts an argument or upsets someone else *intends* to do so...
> Can I offer some calming affirmations?
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> 1. My therapy is OK. I don't need other people to support my choice of therapy. It works for me and I'm keeping it.
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> 2. Therapy is hard. It's normal to struggle and have upsets. It doesn't mean I'm doing the wrong thing, or that therapy is bad, or that my therapist is bad.
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> 3. I notice F seems to be trying awfully hard to convince others that therapy is bad. Why might F want to do that? ... Do any of those reasons have anything to do with me or my therapy? No they don't.
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> 4. I sure wish Dr Bob would keep the board safer. But when he won't, I can protect myself. I can keep myself safe. No one can make me feel bad about myself or my therapy.
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> tabitha> if he is producing websites that say something is bad, I can bet you there are websites out there that that say the opposite.
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> So simply post them in reply.
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> Nikki xxExcellent, thanks!
Bob
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