Posted by Dinah on October 27, 2003, at 11:29:42
In reply to Dr. Bob, here's what I think, posted by Larry Hoover on October 27, 2003, at 10:46:03
My very sweet, honorable, and honored Lar.
As you might have noticed from my voluminous posts on the matter, I do agree with your principle. I *hate* behind the scenes goings on that seem to violate the very spirit of this place and appear on the surface to put Dr. Bob in a position of conspiring with some to fool the rest of us. I think it was *very* poorly done, and I hope Dr. Bob has learned the very lesson that he so eloquently wrote about and then dismissed himself.
And while I was terribly hurt for my friends who were hurt in the original incident, and there are sufficient posts to still document that. I still can't forget that the "suicide" post caused Phil to cry. I think that's my predominant memory of that period. But still, the who's and what's of this particular incident have never been my main objection, administratively.
I don't know if you watched the Cosby show, but there was an episode where Vanessa was hiding her engagement because she was afraid her professional parents wouldn't approve of her blue collar boyfriend. And her father told her that it had nothing to do with her fiance. He could be prime rib, but she had served it to them on a dirty garbage can lid by her means of introducing him to them, and that *she*, not his schooling, had influenced their view of the engagement.
Well, Dr. Bob served Kristen to us on a dirty garbage can lid. He did her no real favors.
My feelings about Dr. Bob's actions now being perfectly plain, I have to say this. I've been at Babble for a while now, and I can almost guarantee you that Dr. Bob will not do as you ask. Unfairness and subjectivity have always been part of the administrative process here, and Dr. Bob has reversed a decision only rarely. As he says, he's only human, he makes mistakes, and - as he might not add - he rarely corrects them. And overall I think he does an admirable job under difficult circumstances. Overall. And overall I stay here on Babble because of Bob, and what I percieve to be his efforts to do what is right, not despite him and his occasional failures.
So I beg you. Please don't make your decision based on Bob's. Please take time off if you need to. You are a good man, and you can do a lot of good on Babble. And if you don't mind me being personal, you could receive a lot on Babble too (other than the knowledge that you do good). You are always so willing to help others, and perhaps a bit unwilling to let others know if you need help.
The board is not Dr. Bob. It is me, and Susan J, and Fallsfall, and all the meds and alternative board people that I don't know that well, and so many many people who care about you as well as admire your knowledge.
Please, please don't leave over a principle. And this comes from one who *loves* principle. But there is more than one principle involved here, and my decision has been that this is not the most important one. The most important principle is the help and support I can give and receive here.
We rail and rail against the fates (or Dr. Bob in this case) but in the end we can't change them. But we can stay and do what we need to do around them. But not stop railing of course. :)
Please reconsider, Lar. Bob's not going to do what you ask.
poster:Dinah
thread:273904
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20031008/msgs/273921.html