Posted by Dinah on October 6, 2003, at 14:23:07
In reply to Hi Bob- can we chat?, posted by Chicklet on October 6, 2003, at 13:19:32
Dr. Bob, perhaps you would like to explain your reasoning. You know (from previous admin posts) that many of us have negative feelings about posting to people as strangers when they know us from prior contact. I certainly understand that people feel the need to start over again. But perhaps you also understand that it is not a good feeling for us. Here are people who we have a relationship with, good or bad, and they know it but we don't. Their posts to us probably reflect their prior interactions with us, but we don't have the courtesy of being on an equal playing field.
Quite apart from this current situation, I thought you discouraged that sort of thing. And I feel betrayed that you collaborated with it, instead of taking up your customary stance. What if the poster who kept coming back, and who made rude references to me and about eating my dogs and other similar things were to contact you about coming back as someone else, a new poster. Here would be someone who, from the posts I'm referring to, you could reasonably assume doesn't like me overly much (is that civil enough?). And I'd be responding to them as if they didn't feel that way about me. And they'd know and I wouldn't. And you would have been helping them along with that. I haven't been posting for the last few days because, frankly, I think you did a disservice to many posters by encouraging this.
I'm not speaking directly to this situation, because the only thing Kristen ever did to me was to ask me if I were sleeping with you. If she were genuinely repentant, expressed remorse, and asked for forgiveness, I would gladly forgive her for that. I assume you have too. In fact, the idea is so patently absurd, that I don't even really need an apology. It's forgiven on general principles.
I don't know what the extent of the offenses against others were, because the majority of them took place in private communications and on another board. And I have been wrestling with the entire question this weekend without coming to a conclusion, because I don't really have the information necessary. So my disappointment with you has nothing directly to do with this situation, but everything to do with the principle involved.
poster:Dinah
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